Partners of Sex Addicts: Rebuilding Trust
The recovering sex addicts I counsel often ask what their partners need to rebuild trust in the wake of sexual betrayal. My initial answer is pretty obvious: TRUTH, in combination… Read more
Archive: Partners of Sex Addicts
The Serenity Room: Embrace the Struggle
Embracing the Struggle: The Chrysalis Along a dusty road in India there sat a beggar who sold cocoons. A young boy watched him day after day, and the beggar finally… Read more
Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: The Blame Game
Does your mate hear even minor feedback as if it’s an attack? And respond by going on the full out attack of you? Does he block your efforts to… Read more
Partners of Sex Addicts: Not Knowing
The number one trauma trigger I hear about from partners of sex addicts is not knowing – not knowing what the truth is, not knowing how far his behavior has… Read more
Partners of Sex Addicts: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma Triggers
See Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Trauma Triggers for Partners of Sex Addicts for further discussion of betrayal trauma. As a wife or partner of a sex addict or intimacy anorexic,… Read more
The Emotional Rollercoaster & the 10 Pillars of Emotional First Aid (Part 2 of 3)
The following are the pillars that I consider cornerstones for emotional first aid for partners of sex addicts on the emotional rollercoaster of their husband’s sexual addiction. 1. Know… Read more
Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Trauma Triggers for Partners of Sex Addicts
Although all addictions cause painful consequences to the addict’s spouse, a sex addiction hurts a wife or partner in a way no other addiction can. You may intellectually know that… Read more
What Valentine’s Card do You Pick for Your Sexually Addicted Spouse?
Flowers. Candy. Chocolate. Romance. Silly love songs. Cards. Lots of cards. Cards with hearts. Cards with words of love. Cards of adoration. Cards of “my one and only” and promises… Read more
The Serenity Room: Waiting
How do they do it? The ones washed ashore. Who in a broken pile put themselves together? Who after the hurricane sort the rubble for the nails that still can… Read more
The Serenity Room: The Freedom of Recovery
The New Colossus Emma Lazarus 1883 Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,With conquering limbs astride from land to land;Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall standA mighty woman… Read more