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Surviving Betrayal: Boundaries, Not Ultimatums

When we first hear about setting boundaries regarding the behavior of another person, it is often hard to see how that differs from the same old ultimatum that got us… Read more

Betrayal Trauma: Understanding Your Trauma Triggers

Trauma triggers are anything that serve as a reminder of painful events in your life. They can be people, places, things, or situations. Thoughts, feelings, and sensations may also be… Read more

Sex Addiction Recovery: Understanding Discovery

“Discovery” is a term that has come to mean the event or period of time in which a sex addiction is discovered by a partner or spouse. Partners of sex… Read more

Surviving Betrayal: Relief from the Pain

How long will it hurt? What most of us want more than anything is for the pain to stop. And we want it to stop now. But we eventually learn… Read more

Surviving Betrayal: The Last To Know

The friends and family who knew the truth but never told us may look to us like accomplices in our betrayal. If they cared about us at all, how could… Read more

Surviving Betrayal: Emotional Numbness

  Most of us experience some degree of emotional numbness as the truth about our partner unfolds. For most of us, this numbness is tempo­rary and protective. We will feel… Read more

Starved for Love: Intimacy Deprivation in Sex and Porn Addiction

One of the least discussed but most painful experiences for partners of sex or porn addicts is the deep level of intimacy deprivation that many endure both before, during, and… Read more

Surviving Betrayal: Surrender Your Loss

   When we first learn that we’ve been betrayed by someone we love and trust, that event takes on such magnitude that it leaves room for lit­tle else in our… Read more

Surviving Betrayal: Willingness

Are you willing to change? Are you willing to ask for help? Are you willing to do things differently just because other women tell you that doing things differently helped… Read more

Partners of Sex Addicts: Why Do I Have to Recover If It Is His Addiction?

Why do I have to recover if it’s his addiction? This is a question I hear frequently from the partners of sex addicts I counsel. Once the shock of discovering… Read more