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What is the Difference Between Big T and Little t Trauma?

Dr. Janice Caudill, PhD, CSAT-S, CCPS-S, CPTT-S, PRT, IAT, SEP

Learn the differences between big and small traumatic events.

Partners of Sex Addicts & Infidelity Survivors: Are You Stuck in a Victim Stance?

Partners of Sex Addicts & Infidelity Survivors: Are You Stuck in a Victim Stance? The legacy of any trauma is a sense of victimhood. Whether from a car wreck, or… Read more

Sex Addiction Recovery: Understanding Discovery

“Discovery” is a term that has come to mean the event or period of time in which a sex addiction is discovered by a partner or spouse. Partners of sex… Read more

Starved for Love: Intimacy Deprivation in Sex and Porn Addiction

One of the least discussed but most painful experiences for partners of sex or porn addicts is the deep level of intimacy deprivation that many endure both before, during, and… Read more

Betrayal Trauma: Understanding Your Trauma Triggers

Trauma Triggers Trauma triggers are anything that serves as a reminder of painful events in your life. They can be people, places, things, or situations. Thoughts, feelings, and sensations may… Read more

Sex Addiction Recovery: Navigating Your Partner’s Valentine Boundaries

  Navigating the Valentine’s Day triggers your partner is experiencing can be tricky for if you are trying to put your marriage back to together after your spouse’s discovery of… Read more

Infidelity Survivors & Partners of Sex Addicts: Dealing with Discovery Trauma

Discovering the sexual betrayal of a spouse is more than just shocking; it is a form of shock trauma. If you have experienced infidelity or are reeling from learning about… Read more

Surviving Betrayal Abandonment: Infidelity Survivors & Partners of Sex Addicts

 Abandonment feels like death. Or worse. In fact; for many of us, death sometimes sounds like a better alterna­tive than abandonment. When our partner betrays us or leaves us for… Read more

Why Do I Have to Recover If It Is His Addiction?

Why do I have to recover if it’s his addiction? This is a question I hear frequently from the partners of sex addicts I counsel. Once the shock of discovering… Read more

‘Tell Me Again’ – Helping Your Partner Heal From Betrayal

Helping Her Heal (Sex Addiction Recovery) Have you ever noticed how someone grappling with grief needs to talk about his or her lost loved one over and over again? There… Read more