Are you on a slippery slope to an emotional affair?
Answer the following questions to determine if your friendship has become an emotional affair.
- Do you confide more to your friend than to your spouse about how your day went?
- Do you discuss negative feelings or intimate details about your marriage with your friend but not with your spouse?
- Are you open with your spouse about the extent of your involvement with your friend?
- Would you feel comfortable if your spouse heard your conversation with your friend?
- Would you feel comfortable if you spouse saw a videotape of your meetings?
- Are you aware of sexual tensions in this friendship?
- Do you and your friend touch differently when you’re alone than in front of others?
- Are you in love with your friend?
Scoring Key
Give yourself one point each for yes to questions 1, 2, 6, 7, 8 and one point each for no to 3, 4, 5.
If you scored near 0, this is just a friendship.
If you scored 3 or more, you may not be “just friends.”
If you scored 7-8 you are definitely involved in an emotional affair.
From Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass.