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Partners of Sex Addicts: Rebuilding Trust

The recovering sex addicts I counsel often ask what their partners need to rebuild trust in the wake of sexual betrayal. My initial answer is pretty obvious: TRUTH, in combination… Read more

The Serenity Room: Embrace the Struggle

Embracing the Struggle: The Chrysalis Along a dusty road in India there sat a beggar who sold cocoons. A young boy watched him day after day, and the beggar finally… Read more

Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: The Blame Game

Does your mate hear even minor feedback as if it’s an attack? And respond by going on the full out attack of you? Does he block your efforts to… Read more

Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: Feeling Lock Down

Feeling locked down? Hard to remember the last time your mate voluntarily shared feelings with you? Or genuinely seemed to care about yours? Pay an emotional price after sharing… Read more

Partners of Sex Addicts: Not Knowing

The number one trauma trigger I hear about from partners of sex addicts is not knowing – not knowing what the truth is, not knowing how far his behavior has… Read more

Partners of Sex Addicts: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma Triggers

See Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Trauma Triggers for Partners of Sex Addicts for further discussion of betrayal trauma. As a wife or partner of a sex addict or intimacy anorexic,… Read more

Are You Married and Alone on Valentine’s Day? Living with Intimacy Anorexia

Women the world over look forward to Valentine’s Day as the opportunity to celebrate their most intimate relationship, a day when they can expect to feel cherished and appreciated,… Read more

Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: Criticism

Intimacy anorexics are black belts in avoiding love connections with their primary partners. As such, I view intimacy anorexia as a particularly pernicious form of love avoidance that involves… Read more

The Emotional Rollercoaster & the 10 Pillars of Emotional First Aid (Part 2 of 3)

The following are the pillars that I consider cornerstones for emotional first aid for partners of sex addicts on the emotional rollercoaster of their husband’s sexual addiction. 1. Know… Read more